CRUSHES OH CRUSHES!!!

Crushes are a normal thing to happen, you may have a little too many crushes on different people at different times. Don’t worry it is pretty normal.

There are different types of crushes that include:

1. The childhood crush: The guy you played with all the childhood games with and obviously got attached to him so bad. It broke your heart a little when you discovered on Facebook that he got married, even though you haven’t spoken to him in 10 years and he’s not even that cute anymore.

2. The celeb crush: The clearly unattainable guy celeb whose poster hung above your bed for the longest it can survive and you were legitimately certain you’d marry him. You’re so glad the Internet wasn’t around when you were 13 because you might have been one of those crazy preteens making Twitter death threats against his girlfriend.

3. The work crush: This is the guy you wouldn’t normally be into, but you sit next to him nine hours a day, five days a week, and he is probably the best colleague you have ever heard. Better worse he starts flirting with. You will definitely be forced to develop a smidge of feelings for him.

4. The not-your-type crush: The guy you would never ever dream or even expect yourself to be into, but you are in a big way. He’s blond and you hate everything about him. He’s totally corporate and you’re an all-natural free spirit. He’s a skater boy, you do ballet. Whatever, opposites attract.

5. The Social Network crush: The guy you’ve never even met, but you are very tight friend. You basically know everything about him. You constantly check if he has contacted you. He’s so cute and always so witty, and now you Google-stalk him weekly and dream of ways to scheme a run-in with him.

6. The hate crush: The guy you really can’t stand, but your blood gets so hot every time he enrages you that it basically turns you on and you just want to rip his clothes off to make him stop talking already.

7. The high school reunion crush: The guy who you were ever in class with and you basically competed vigorously for all the best positions in class and maybe school never even noticed him, but five years later, you’re suddenly putting on makeup and a sexy dress just in case you run into him on the streets.

8. The borderline-inappropriate authority crush: The guy who is way too old for you and you feel majorly creepy admitting it to yourself, but you’d totally do him. Think a college professor, your dad’s friend or your first boss.

9. The barista crush: The guy who serves your drinks at the bar. He always remembers how you take it and gives you a sweet little wink, so you’re basically in love, right?

10. The crush you’d never admit: The guy you would never say out loud that you have a teeny-tiny harmless crush on because it’s so, so wrong. Like, say, your best friend’s fiancé. You’d NEVER act on it, ever (but you did have a weird dream once that made you feel guilty).

11. The see-him-everywhere crush: The guy in your extended circle of friends that you run into all the time. He is basically everywhere you are. He is on the same street all the time, He’s on your bus one morning. You go to the same gym. He’s at your classmate’s birthday party. But you can never quite find a way to get him into a real conversation.

12. The “This could really be it” crush: This is the guy you just started dating and appears as he who has serious potential to be the love of your life. You've got all the delightful swoon-y symptoms of a crush, but there's something even better there too.

All this types of crushes are healthy and not wrong, until you become obsessive and it destroys you and your inner being. Don’t let them destroy you. Many crushes will come and go. Based on a psychological research, crushed only last for 4 months, if its past that the you already in love!!

Seven Things Madly-in-love Couples Do to Stay That Way

Keeping love alive

You’ve probably met some of them: Couples who have been together for years—maybe even decades—and are still madly in love with each other.
Perhaps it shows in the way they look at each other, or in the subtle ways they stay connected by touch, or in the kindnesses they show each other. However it is revealed, their passionate bond is unmistakable. Long after the first blush of infatuation and young love has faded, these two people not only love each other, they’re delighted to be in each other’s company.
What do couples do to stay in love through the years? While nothing in life is guaranteed, here are seven daily choices you can make to increase your odds of joining the ranks of those delightfully happy couples:
1. Listen
Listening to your partner reaps benefits in every area of your life together. When you listen, you’ll learn things that will help you love the other person more deeply. You’ll catch a glimpse of your partner’s hopes and dreams, hurts and fears. You’ll hear about things you do that make your partner want to withdraw. You’ll discover ideas and thoughts previously unknown to you. If you’re not in the habit of listening—really listening—you’ll miss all these things and more.
2. Value each other
When you value someone, you won’t want to belittle or tear down that person. You’ll also be less inclined to take that person for granted. And you definitely won’t be careless with his or her heart. When you truly value someone, you’ll see and appreciate what that person brings into your life on a daily basis. Even better, you will find ways to communicate that appreciation every chance you get.
3. Forgive
No matter how deeply in love, two human beings are bound to hurt each other with thoughtless words, selfish actions, or inconsiderate neglect. Forgiving each other for those hurtful acts is the cornerstone of any lasting, harmonious relationship. Without forgiveness, slights and offenses accumulate like boulders on a highway. Devote yourself to clearing obstructions in your relationship through forgiveness.
4. Laugh together
Laughing reduces stress, improves communication, gets past facades, and releases feel-good hormones in the brain. It creates great memories, helps grudges fade, and knits hearts together. Maybe your partner is always cracking you up. Or maybe neither one of you is all that funny, but you both laugh-until-you-cry at the same movies. Wherever you find it, laughter is good for love.
5. Be kind
When it comes to keeping love alive, kindness is essential. For one thing, it breeds appreciation. It also builds trust. It’s hard to stay in love with someone around whom you walk on eggshells because you never know when the next criticism or putdown is coming. In this manner, kindness is the antithesis of abuse and mistreatment.
6. Flirt
Flirting helped you fall in love, and it can help you stay in love. And don’t just flirt with your words—some of the flirtiest things can be said best with body language. Flirting says to your partner, “I’m still attracted to you and still crazy about you!”
7. Protect
Couples stay in love because they value the love they have. That means they do whatever is necessary to defend and safeguard their relationship. All kinds of unwise behaviors–addictions, affairs, lying, misplaced priorities—can jeopardize your unity and undermine your intimacy. That’s why it’s critical to be intentional about protecting what you have together.

Falling in love is one thing. Staying in love is another thing altogether. Practice these strategies on a daily basis, and you’ll definitely increase your odds of staying in love for the long run.

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READ ABOUT 10 THINGS THAT YOU SHOULD DO TO MAKE YOUR GIRL ADORE YOU, MOST MEN IGNORE NUMBER 2

10 THINGS THAT YOU WOULD DO TO  MAKE YOUR GIRL ADORE YOU!!!!

Guys are you among the men that believe in the myth that we women are hard to please? Well here is some truth for you; most men do the extreme opposite to that that pleases their women. Relationships bring joy mostly and tears too. A healthy relationship is key for a healthy life. Want some few tips on how you will make your girlfriend adore you? Then you have to read this. It’s crucial for you’re almost relationship and also to make yours even better…

1. Listen to her

You’ve most probably heard a thousand and one times that a woman talks 20,000 words a day. This is 13,000 words more than any average man blamed on the higher level of proteins in a woman. So when your woman talks to you the best you would do is sit/stand there and just listen to her unless of course you have been taking huge amounts of protein trust me you will never keep up with her talking. A woman appreciates her man listening to her thoughts; it may range from anything from how her day went, how the snack she ate was scrumptious or as crucial and important things as how she wants to invest in some business or how she finds your relationship. Whatever it is, just listen to her. She will sure appreciate it

2. Appreciate her hobby

Show more interests her interests. She may be a swimming holic and you are probably the ‘not more than water tub water’ kind of guy. But hey who says you have to get into the pool? Go and just be her paparazzi for the day. She like singing? She may not be the best at singing but just listen to her, however bad she does it just listen. Don’t make fun or criticize her try and make her feel good of herself. It feels secure when a woman knows that her man likes what she likes even though it means pretending to like it.



3. Be close to her family and friends

Love her family and friends like they were your own. Establish a closer bond with her friends and family. Trust me she’ll love you for it. Call her dad and ask him if he wants to go for a drink or play golf next weekend buy her mum a gift on mother’s day, invite her friends to come over for some barbecue but only when she’s present.


4. Surprise her

This doesn’t mean something necessarily expensive.  Just do something out of the ordinary from time to time. Buy her favorite wine cook her favorite food and serve her in a candle lit dinner. She would definitely appreciate any sweet thing to do to make her happy.

5. Respect her
Always give audience to her opinions though you are the man and you are the one in charge you should always give her due respect. Hear her opinions and put them into consideration, she would appreciate that. Don’t be rude to her at anytime. Especially in the presence of her friends. That will make her feel UN loved. And if perhaps you disagree with her point of view on something you can always disagree without being disrespectful.

6. Give her a hand from time to time


Some men are so proud and full of too much ego that they can’t lift a finger to help their partner. Once in a while help her out in the kitchen. She may come from work feeling quite exhausted don’t just sit there feet on the pouf and all you can do best is watch T.V. Remember that she is a queen and she is meant to be treated as such.

7. Compliment her
Women like being appreciated. It’s very important for a woman to be complimented by her man. It elevates her confidence and self esteem. It’s very painful getting negative remarks from someone whose opinions matters the most.  Always strive to give compliment her. Tell her hair looks nice; ask her if she’s been working out because she looks hotter. BUT no matter what! Never ever tell her she looks fat in that dress!


8. Create time for her

Bonding strengthens a relationship more than you can imagine. Get some time out of your busy schedule for her. Add some spice of romance to the relationship; try to imitate some of the romance escapades you see in the movies. Take the time to indulge in romantic strolls. From searching for seashells on the beach, Taking nature walks in the woods hold her hand. Females love all those ‘mushy’ stuff.

9. Make her laugh


Nobody hates to laugh. If it means tickling her to make her laugh then do. Add a sense of humour to your talks. You would be surprised how much of a long way humour will take you. Strive to always put a smile on her face. Make her laugh and forget that she had a terrible day at work. If you can make her laugh she’ll never let you go. She will definitely turn to you all the time during a hard time she is facing. She finds consolations in that hearty laugh you make her have

10. Appreciate her more
Appreciate your woman. You may not notice how helpful she is until she is gone. You surely don’t want it to get to that point. Appreciation works wonders. Always Endeavour to show her gratitude even for the little things. Women like to be appreciated. And appreciation is reciprocal. Show her some appreciation and watch as she appreciates you.

then after that ••••

ENJOY YOUR WOMAN ADORING YOU!!